Win at Life! Here’s How…
Self-accountability is tricky because it forces you to come to terms with your faults and weaknesses, which can be one step worse than death for a person with a fragile ego. To acknowledge that you may have handled a situation better requires you to find peace in the fact that you were wrong, and in essence, imperfect. For individuals with underdeveloped emotional maturity, accountability can feel as though their very understanding of self is being threatened.
“If X is right,” one may think, “then that means that I may have acted out of jealousy. I’m not a jealous person so X must be wrong.” In actuality, you may just be lying to yourself, which only stunts your growth by masking the aspects of yourself demanding to be healed. A better internal dialogue might be “If X is right, what would I be jealous about? How can I address the root cause so that I no longer subconsciously behave out of alignment with who I want to be?”
When implemented properly, accountability is the surest way to enable growth within all aspects of your life by encouraging responsible behavior in alignment with your ultimate goals. You can lie and tell yourself excuses all day. However, you are the only one who loses in this scenario by accepting the risks of remaining comfortable.
Here are 3 easy ways to use accountability to create your best life:
1) Make a plan and implement.
Whether your goal is to start a business, become a better friend, or live a more active lifestyle — you need to be your own coach. Beef up your plan with accountability checkpoints to ensure that you are doing what you need to do to make the necessary progress. Identify current habits that are working against your new plan and be mindful when they creep back into your life. If your goal is to evoke more feelings of gratitude each day and you feel yourself complaining in a particular instance, call yourself out and course-correct. Be honest and ready to check yourself.
2) Build an accountability support team.
Surround yourself with a support system that is skilled at providing unbiased, constructive feedback. A real friend supports you by helping you to see the truth in situations and not just tell you what you want to hear. Instead of immediately accepting “your side” to any story, seek guidance from people who are not afraid to ask the right questions and promote reflection.
3) Create a dope reward system.
Accountability is usually the toughest to implement at the beginning of any new plan because it requires sacrifices in some cases without any immediate return. To combat discouragement, celebrate tiny victories along the way for added motivation to remain devoted to your plan’s big picture.
As you overcome self-sabotaging behaviors and limiting beliefs through making substantial progress on your goals, your reality will begin to amaze you.