3 Brutal Truths You Need to Accept in Order To Feel Happier at Your Job
To those of us who must work to afford life-sustaining necessities or even maintain a preferred quality of living, we spend a considerable amount of time performing tasks on behalf of our jobs. The average American spends 90,000 hours at work over their lifetime (Business Insider, 2018). Ask yourself, how do I want to spend those 90,000 hours? There are ways in which we can improve our conditions of employment by examining personal beliefs and making peace with brutal truths that govern reality. Acceptance allows for a greater sense of flexibility while resistance often results in conflicting emotions such as disappointment and frustration.
Acknowledging these three brutal truths about life below will play a critical role in increasing your happiness within your workplace:
1. Life Isn’t Fair
Let it go. No matter what you do, how good you are as an employee, or how well you treat your coworkers and colleagues, you will not always receive the outcome you deserve. No, it is not fair, but it is life. The sooner you accept this truth, the less you will be affected when unjust situations occur at work. Let’s say the company owner’s son gets a promotion over you although you have worked considerably hard with remarkable metrics to support that claim—it is time to make a decision. Are you going to exert energy in complaining about how unfairly you were treated or maintain a positive attitude while determining the next step that will yield the best long-and-short term results? Hint: Complaining will perpetuate the negative emotion. Your call!
2. Not Everyone is Nice
In a perfect world, warm smiles and pleasant demeanors from your employer, coworkers, and clientele would greet you throughout your day. Despite your disposition, you cannot expect or assume anyone else will be nice to you. Preoccupied with their own personal issues or general temperament, you will get what others give you and you have to be okay with that. It is up to you to decide to what extent their attitude will affect your response. For example, if one of your coworkers is a known grouch due to personal health issues, perhaps applying empathy will help you respond without taking their grumpiness personally. Keep in mind that your emotions are your responsibility, so intentionally shaping external triggers is a means of self-care.
3. Money Isn’t Everything
Although necessary and a vital component of survival, money should not become a deciding factor of your happiness.
More precious than money, is time, and that has exponential value.
Instead of giving in to frustration about your job not paying enough or comparing your salary to that of your coworkers or friends, try your best to find happiness within your current job as you push forward to find your next step or opportunity. Time spent worrying or complaining is time you could be happy and productive. Focus on coworkers, clients, tasks, or your favorite podcast (if possible) that bring you joy, while taking the initiative of creating the kind of day that you want.